Positive Ways To Manage Hurtful Behavior

How To Use This Method

  • Step 1

    Discuss together the child's developmental history starting in infancy, verbal skills, temperament, observed pattern of hurtful behavior, daily schedules/transitions during the days and in the evenings, and review the limit setting techniques currently being used both at home and in the group care setting.” Plan to keep close tabs on any attempted bites or actual bites with detailed documentation such as found in the Tools section of this website. The knowledge parents and teachers gain from doing this will inform your solutions.

  • Step 2

    Ask someone (not a teacher currently needed in the ratio) to do a running observation of the child in his/her group care setting during a free choice time. Write down everything the child says and does for at least 30 minutes, longer if possible, during a time that tends to be when bites occur. Watch for what captures the child’s interest, what stresses the child, how the child makes choices about who to talk to and how to spend his/her time, how others react or intervene, etc. Share this document with the child’s parents. Having this level of detail will help you to customize your solutions for this child.

  • Step 3

    Download and print out the Temperament article and rating scale from the “Tools & Song” section of this website. Parents and caregivers should fill out this form to really understand the child’s individual style/needs and how people perceive the child. This will be key to your success.

  • Step 4

    Review the case study on this website and/or in the book to see how a customized Action Plan is developed. Then download the Action Plan form under Tools. For each of the seven categories, type your findings from recent observations and meetings into the column on the left (which will expand) and create your solutions in the column on the right. Parents and teachers should then meet to discuss and agree on the changes they will be making at home and at school, based on this Action Plan.